May 2, 2009
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This Blog’s For You
This month’s first assignment for Featured Grownups is to write a letter of thanks to a fellow Xangan without identifying them, to tell them why Xanga is a better place with them here. I am 99% certain that the person who I am going to write about is going to recognize this.
Dear Fellow Xangan,
When we first met online, it wasn’t on Xanga, but it seems there were so many parallels during the course of our friendship. I remember taking a chance – hoping I wasn’t offending you – when I closed off one of our chats with “So long, and thanks for all the fish!” When you responded with “42″ I knew that we were going to be good friends.
When we first met in person, I was nervous as hell but watching you check into your hotel room, you seemed so confident (and it’s funny how on another place, you said the same about me), though you seemed a little timid when we sat down to talk. I knew you were in town for your trade and was in awe of you for breaking through the glass ceiling. You really inspired me to try to do the same. (In fact, you’ve inspired me to do a lot of things, whether or not you know it – going back to school not being the least of these.)
We always shared what was very close and personal to ourselves with each other – more-so when we started writing first on MDD, and later on Xanga.
I have been able to keep up with your life in a way I wouldn’t have been able to had you not been a part of the Xanga community. I almost felt at times like we were sitting in your kitchen over coffee while talking about our relationships.
I was there while you wrote about the trials and tribulations of your marriage, and even witnessed some of it firsthand. I felt like you deserved so much more than you were getting from that relationship. I felt like there were signs of mental abuse (it just seemed your spouse was always finding ways to burst your bubble) and knew you were worth so much more than either of you thought.
I was there through the “doofus” era, and was so hoping you would not get your heart broken, because my fear was that things were moving way too fast for comfort.
So of course, when you met your current Significent Other, I was cautious and felt overly protective of you. But as time went on, I grew to trust that you would not be hurt – because of how happy you were. Seeing the two of you – the love that passed like a bolt of electricity from your eyes when you looked at each other – made me realize that this was THE ONE. I cried because I just knew you were going to be happy the rest of your life.
Now, reading about your happy life really makes me feel so happy for you – sometimes I could burst with it.
Thank you for keeping Xanga someplace I want to return to – yours is the first blog I check for updates (so you need to update more often!!!) Thank you for being someone that I trust with everything that is sacred to me – things I can’t share with other people who know me IRL.
But most of all, thanks for being one of my very best friends ever. I’m sure you know who you are.
Comments (23)
This is interesting. Do I sense a bit of a crush on the person in question? I am just joking. I like your site. It is wonderful to see someone here will keep you coming back!
This is so sweet. I know who you are talking of and the glimpse into your friendship and just how close you two are is lovely. *hugs*
*sniff* What a lovely entry. I’m sure the person in question will recognize themselves, since you do know them so well. **hugs**
This is so sweet
@WondersCafe - Haha, well only if it’s a girl crush. I really don’t think men can grasp the depth of female friendships.
@teefahknee - I knew people who knew both of us would know who the person was. We’ve been friends now for 11 years, but it seems like just yesterday that we met for the first time. And yet, so much has transpired in both of our lives since then and we’ve shared it with each other.
I am sorry, it is the wording. I got carried away with the connotation.
@Kallioph - I can totally understand that
Isn’t the internet awesome? 
Meet so many people we never otherwise would’ve had teh chance to know!!!
@WondersCafe - Not a problem
I purposely left the gender up to speculation, so it’s only reasonable that if one thought I was writing about someone of the opposite gender, it does sound like a crush LOL
It sounds like you and this other person have a wonderful friendship!
S/he sounds like a good friend. (I almost accidentally left the r out of friend. That would have been BAD!)
You are lucky to have such a good friend! This is a very nice tribute!
Sounds like a great friendship, a very sweet entry!
That was a beautiful letter!
Bravo for excellent friendships!
that is a nice letter
@Featured_Grownups - @Krissy_Cole - @TheCheshireGrins - @bendecida83 -
@jo63psalm - @Jaynebug - @Lmoisan -
Some of my best friends ever are people I met online (including my husband.) And some of my closest friends are people I have never met (who are Xangans.)
this is a great tribute to a great freind…Smile
RYC: Thanks for dropping by and leaving a comment.
Sure sounds like it has been a good friendship.
just wonderful!
Dear Kalioph,
I’m visiting you from the Featured Grownups blogsite, where I’m participating in this challenge.
You write a wonderful letter to I’m sure a wonderful Xangan who has impacted you in miraculous ways.
Michael F. Nyiri, poet, philosopher, fool
Sounds like you’re both lucky to have each other as friends. I read some of the comments about girl-boy vs girl-girl relationships. You’re right. We can’t grasp the depth of female relationships. But men dare not get close to each other as women do lest folks think they’re gay…
Nice, well-written post.
@dsullivan - It’s a shame that men feel that way. But I think women don’t really care if people wonder. WE know what our relationship is, and that is what matters. Are women more sure of their sexuality than men?