January 28, 2009
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Making friends
I came to the realization today (okay, no I didn’t. I’ve always known this.) that I’m not a very friendly person. I mean, I don’t make friends easily. Not real friends. I am well liked at work and get invited out to lunch quite often, but none of those people are people I would socialize with if I didn’t work with them. We really have nothing else in common. The person I go to lunch with (Colette) most is a very proud born-again Christian married to a preacher. I am an athiest. Now there’s a match made in heaven. NOT. But I like Colette. She’s fun and funny. But if we became friends outside of work, it wouldn’t last long because we would run out of things to do/say/etc. to develop the friendship.
I make friends online. Nearly every close friend I have is someone I met online. Including my husband. I guess I find that people I meet online I meet in places where we share common interests.
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My soon-to-be husband and I met online and while I think you have to be careful with people you meet there, once you get to know them better online, then you can get to be friends on and offline. I’m a bit like you in that I have lots of colleagues and “friends” but when I moved to a different state recently, I left behind my FRIENDS and can’t seem to find new ones to take their place. I moved back home to my childhood home and there are still friends living here from when I was young. I tried to reconnect but our lives over the past 30 years have changed so much that we just can’t seem to click anymore. It is sad, but I think that with a bit of help (yes, I’m a Christian — but not an in-your-face one) we find where we’re supposed to be and are given the tools to make it happen ourselves. Good luck and I hope that we can become one of those online friendships.
@Artemis2005 - Yes, I agree you have to be careful with who you meet online. Just as
you have to be careful with who you meet on the bus, in the grocery
store, at church, anywhere. Though I am more of a trusting person. I
trust everyone until they betray that trust. I have a couple of friends from high school that I still visit with when I move back home – but that’s mostly because we were in music classes together and meet up for karaoke